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Mindful : August 2019
downs, I’ve come to one conclusion about happiness: Most of the time, a truly happy life includes a healthy amount of discomfort. The pursuit of happiness is considered an inalienable right. The conundrum, however, is how hard it can be to recognize what will bring us lasting happiness, and what that happiness will even look like. With many of us drowning in errands, bills, work, emails, and all the other to-do-list items that seem to magi- cally appear each day, it’s easy to assume happiness springs from a life free of challenges and stress. But often what prevents us from being happy is that we would much rather not have to deal with uncomfortable experiences, which—let’s face it—we can’t really avoid. Life offers up ample rough patches, from broken hearts to busted knees. Discomfort and difficulty are inevitable. Can we try to be happy—or at least OK—with whatever comes our way? I like to think that difficul- ties are like fiber in our diets: They keep our systems mov- ing and processing every- thing we take in. We need to take on challenges in order to feel alive, and, ultimately, to feel fulfilled and happy. And don’t worry, challenges will come for us all. In my psychotherapy practice, part of the goal CANWETRYTOBE HAPPY—OR AT LEAST OK—WITH WHATEVER COMES OUR WAY? of therapy, and potentially the path to happier-ness, is helping clients turn with curiosity toward people, events, or situations that they experience as diffi- cult. For some, this might mean simply washing their dishes, walking a few feet out of their front door, or going to a family dinner. For others it might mean sitting silently for a few minutes without the TV on. Turning toward whatever we are avoiding or dreading can be game-changing. When we meet and greet our discom- fort, we gradually learn that our lives are OK as they are. Over time, and with prac- tice, this helps us build re- silience, allowing us to face bigger and less predictable challenges with equanimity and curiosity. By seeing life’s chal- lenges as our daily dose of roughage, they can become part of our happiness, as opposed to being obsta- cles in the way. There will always be unpleasant stuff mixed in with the pleasant. Embracing that, we can find confidence, strength, and happiness born of welcom- ing our whole lives—bumps, bruises, and all. ● THE TRICKINESS OF HAPPINESS Listen to Editor-In-Chief Barry Boyce talk about how pursuing happiness too zealously can derail your mindfulness practice. mindful.org/tricky-happy m 30 mindful August 2019 inner wisdom