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Mindful : December 2016
By Linda Graham Illustrations by Brett King When things are at their worst, we have the chance to be at our best. When an epic freakout emerges and we’re starting to beat ourselves up, what we need is a quick mental shift. That’s the essence of resilience. IS IT TIME TO CHANGE COURSE? Between a stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. —Viktor Frankl How you respond to the issue...is the issue. — Frankie Perez When I worked in the Sunset neighborhood of San Francisco, I would park my car in Golden Gate Park and walk the two blocks to my office, something I could easily do on automatic pilot. One day, more distracted than usual by mulling over something I was worried about, I wasn’t paying enough attention to where I was walking and blithely stepped into a sidewalk of freshly laid wet cement—up to my ankles. The cascade of critical thoughts erupted immediately. “ You stupid klutz! Look what you’ve done! You’ve ruined your shoes! Now you’ll be late to work. You’ll have to cancel cli- ents today. You’ll probably lose clients over this. How could you!” An instant slide into a deep rabbit hole of shaming-blaming-catastrophizing. Fortunately, by then I had enough mind- fulness and self-compassion practices under my belt to catch up to myself. “ Whoa! Wait a minute! I need to do this differently! I’m not the only person on the planet who made a mistake today just because they weren’t paying atten- tion. This is probably not the only mistake I’m going to make today. I need to slow down here, collect myself, try to be a little kinder to myself right here, right now. I need to step out of this sidewalk, and deal.” With that shift in attitude and shift in response, I gently picked my feet up out of my shoes and picked my shoes up out of the cement. There happened to be an apartment building with an outdoor water faucet just a few steps away. As I washed off my shoes, I began to think a little more clearly. “This happened. Other than my own embarrassment and my own inner critic wailing the hide out of me, there’s no catastro- phe here. Shit happens. I’m dealing with it as best as I can. This is going to be OK.” When an on-site construction worker came over to me with some paper towels to wipe off my shoes (I’m grateful to this day for his kind- ness—no teasing or taunting, no further embar- rassment), I began to have some hope that I could save my shoes. I also began to have a little pride and a lot of gratitude that I was coping as wellasIwas.→ December 2016 mindful 75 insight