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Mindful : October 2014
66 mindful October 2014 4 Releasing areas where you are holding tension, watch the topography of your face shift and settle. What do you notice? Extend to yourself a wish of good will and well-being. It’s like the sentiment captured in these lines from Derek Walcott: The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other’s welcome. 5 Observe your face again. Bring the attention that a grand- mother would bring to the face of a beloved grandchild. ● Looking in the Mirror with Kindness Our faces are windows into our most intimate feelings. Yet we’re apt to treat them as strangers, reserving for them our harshest criticism. We’re surrounded by mirrors that show us our faces. But how often do we really take the time to look at our faces, as opposed to concentrating on ways to conceal what we consider to be their less than agreeable qualities? The onslaught of internal commentary is probably familiar to us all. “My nose is too big/too small.” “I wish I had more hair/less hair!” “Why can’t I be more like my sister ?” “...my brother?” “...my daughter ?” “...my friend?” Intuitively we know the face is like a stream, constantly moving and shifting in response to conditions. We witness this flux in the faces around us, and their expressions can move us to empathy. And yet when it comes to our own faces, we throw compassion out the window. Enter mindfulness, which helps us see how things are with an attitude of recep- tivity, balance, and patience. Obser ving with unshaded eyes how we respond to ourselves, we lay the groundwork for building a relationship with ourselves—and others—steeped in trust and acceptance, as opposed to constant dodging or denial. Tara Healey is program director for mindfulness-based learning at Harvard Pilgrim Health Care, and Jonathon Roberts is an administrator and copywriter there. 1 Sit in front of a mirror, in a well- lit place. Make your face the focal point, and relax it as much as possible. 2 Bring awareness to each par t of your face: forehead, eyes, cheeks, nose, lips, chin, jaw. Now include your hair and ears. Note what you see objectively, without judgment. They’re not “wrinkles,” for example, but instead, as the philoso- pher Emmanuel Lévinas put it, places where the face has left “a trace of itself.” 3 Pay attention to internal comments of liking or disliking, as well as places in your face or elsewhere in your body where you experience tightness, clenching, or discomfort. Notice if your thoughts spin out—does resistance to the shape of your nostril expand into recalling a difficult conversation earlier in the day? Notice the emotions that cling to any of these thoughts or physical sensations. For more on mindfulness practice, go to mindful.org/inpractice. To submit questions about techniques, the workplace, or relationships and home life, email