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Mindful : February 2015
When things really don’t go our way, how do we find the courage to not give up? An early mindful perspective comes from Henry David Thoreau, who wrote in his journa l in 1838: “If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.” Or as we might rephrase this: Through the quiet of mindfulness practice a nd being open enough, we ca n find benefit in every disappointment. Disappointment isn’t something we can avoid in life, but it doesn’t have to be crippling. If we have even a glimmer that our failures are as valuable as our successes, we have the beginnings of a way to work with disappointment. The unacceptable alternative is to give up. It’s far more damaging to shut down, to avoid taking a cha nce in life, avoiding anything risky, committed, or uncertain. Martin Luther King wrote: “There can be no deep disap- pointment where there is not great love.” (MLK Jr ’s Letter from a Birmingha m Jail, April 1963). Starting with an appreciation of ourselves and growing in our empathy for others, let us champion love over apathy. Let’s take a chance! Let’s risk disappointment! We ca n celebrate that we have the courage to experience both disappointment, or failure, and satisfaction, or success. Contemplation Bring Your Disappointment with You When you’re in the midst of disappointment, here are a few things that may help you to find quiet and openness: If you have a few minutes Breathe through your disap- pointment. Take it in and let it out. Just stopping to notice our breath for a minute can make a big difference. If you have an hour You might spend time meditat- ing or you might go for a walk, a swim, or a bike ride. See what happens when you give yourself some space. Bring your disappointment with you, ortrytoleaveitathomeorat the office. If you have more time Set aside an afternoon or a whole day to practice with your disappointment. You can do this on your own or join a group retreat. Does your disappointment change when you work with it this way? One thing that might surprise you is that, if you sit long enough with even a huge or devastat- ing disappointment, you might get bored with your thoughts and reactions to it. What’s that about? Any time Be kind to yourself. There’s a difference between you and whatever disappointment you are experiencing. Appreciate yourself. Appreciate your bravery: Right now, when you are experiencing the worst disappointment of your life, you are there with it. It’s okay that you’re disappointed. Be kind to yourself. ● mindful practices insight 76 mindful February 2015