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Mindful : February 2015
2 GETTING WHAT YOU WANT What about the disappointment that comes from getting what you want? What could be the problem with inheriting a million dollars, getting engaged to your true love, signing a book contract, win- ning an election, or fulfilling a ny dream you have? More mundanely: You want a bagel. You get a bagel. What ’s disappointing about that? But we keep rais- ing the bar. What we think will satisfy us today may not satisfy us at all tomorrow. In the story of the Fisherman and His Wife, a poor fisherman catches a magic fish that implores the fisherman to save him in exchange for fulfilling a wish. The fisherman can’t think of anything he wants, so he throws the fish back and goes home. When his wife hears the story, she has lots of ideas. They could use a loaf of bread, since they have noth- ing to eat. The fish grants this wish, but the wife soon wants a nice house, to replace their hovel. Then she wants a mansion, then she wants to be a queen in a palace, and finally she wants to make the sun rise and the moon set. Essentially she wants to be God. You can imag ine what happens next. The fish says no way, a nd she is very disappointed. The wish-fulfilling fish disappea rs, a nd the fisher- man and his wife are back in their shack. Like so ma ny fables, this one touches on real life desires. There’s nothing wrong with improving your life, but unfortunately, we are often unable to appreciate what we a re given or achieve. We may find ourselves disap- pointed over and over again a s our appetites increase. When the great thing we longed for doesn’t live up to our expectations, we may wonder why we wanted it in the first place. That word expectation again! Buyer’s remorse occurs, in par t, because the purchased item doesn’t bring the hoped-for satisfaction. Getting what you wa nt is also a source Often what we think will satisfy us today will leave us unsatisfied tomorrow. As we raise the bar on our expectations, we can wind up chronically unable to appreciate what we already have. mindful practices insight 74 mindful February 2015 Mindfulness has a home in Los Angeles For over 10 years, InsightLA has been one of the premier centers for mindfulness meditation training in Southern California. We are proud to be one of the few centers offering both secular and Buddhist classes and retreats for beginning, intermediate and advanced students. Some of our most popular offerings include Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), and our award-winning Basics of Mindfulness class. Our Speaker Series features some of the brightest minds from the world of mindfulness and meditation. Past guests include Sharon Salzberg, Robert Thurman, Jack Kornfield, Norman Fischer, Tara Brach, and Joseph Goldstein. VISIT US AT WWW.INSIGHTLA.ORG InsightLA_Ad_Mindful_Feb2015.indd 1 10/27/14 11:59 PM